Comparing of one with another – a detailed guide

Comparing People

“A home with a loving and loyal husband and wife is the supreme setting in which children can be reared in love and righteousness and in which the spiritual and physical needs of children can be met.”

Comparing ourselves to others starts at an early age. As we develop, we are compared to the standard, so doctors and parents know that we are developing properly. We also learn by watching and comparing ourselves to others. This is one way children learn social standards.
Ordinary people continually compare themselves with others. Which lead nowhere, except to burning with jealousy, anger, frustration. The whole vitality is wasted in comparison. Comparison of one with the other is not needed; it will create tension. Every person around you has something or the other better than you, better house, better car, better physique, etc., every human being is matchless, not alike, it is the magnificence of creation. Everyone has a habit of comparing themselves to others: your associates, parents, classmates, friends, and even casual visitors.
People often compare themselves with others to make a judgment of where they stand in the story. It gives one a reference point to see the things. Comparable help us to understand ourselves better and see where improvement is needed. On the other hand, it also results in low confidence, inferiority, negative emotions (fault), etc.
By comparing the untrue” “I” ego is inflamed or hurt, in both ways it is harmful. Drop the ego and accept yourself as you are. Be content with what you have, be grateful for the existence. Contentment is the greatest wealth. Happiness comes from knowledge of the supreme soul, faith in God, which is the source of bliss and peace.
From the beginning, you have been told to compare. That is poison you should have been told not to compare. That is thoughtful. You should have been told not to compare. You are unique, so is the other in some way or the other, first of all, it’s not necessary that people always compare to others. Many times people compare their past and present. So the motivation to which we are making comparison matters a lot. Existence accepts you as you are, do not reject yourself.
No child is born with an inferiority complex. It is his parents, society, education, the culture, the establishment are responsible for creating the inferiority complex in the child. The intentions of the parents, teachers, society are for the child’s growth, but the possibilities are otherwise, the child is not growing towards his potential, he is following the guidelines given by others. Every child is told what he should be. Discipline, commandments are given, he has to fulfil them, or if he can’t, he starts feeling inferior. Inferiority complex is the essential mind disease out of which many diseases arise. He will never be happy; misery is going to be his lot.
The new generation has realized that unfair comparison, competition with other children is harmful and is not good for them and they have to be given valuable support and encouragements to cope up with the present day education and competition and that every person has to be given equal opportunity to be his or herself.
In fact, we all have strengths and weaknesses, and tiny of that relates to worth as individuals. We are all equal in value. Are we weak in some area? Everyone is weak in some field, so what is wrong with being weak at times? We are also active in other sectors. Together we make up a community that shares our strengths and helps with our weaknesses.
Since we are all this way, there is no need for me to feel guilty if I see someone is stronger at something than I am. If I should be better, I’ll use this as positive motivation to improve. The human race is inevitable, and we are seeing it since our childhood and become part of our life, will be until the end of our life. Now up to what extent, you want to be part of the race depends on you.
“Time decides who you meet in your life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behaviour decides who stays in your life.”

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