“We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.”
Forbearance means tolerance. The Vedic scriptures suggest that spiritual seekers must have six spiritual disciplines i.e. control of mind, control of senses, forbearance, withdrawing the mind, faith, and contentment. Undoubtedly a more balanced state of mind is needed and the remedy that Vedic scriptures give us is to restrain our desires by regulating our life with daily worship and meditation. The external behaviours of someone who lets his intellect get out of control. Such people have an irreverent attitude. Nothing is sacred to them, nothing holy. But through daily exercising anger, hatred and the other lower emotions, they do, without knowing, and suffer the reaction: have hallucinations, confusions, separations and even perform terrible acts. The remedy in both cases is only spiritual disciplines and spiritual awareness.
An excellent key to maintaining forbearance is having the power of acceptance: accepting people as they are, accepting events as they are happening. Acceptance develops in a person by understanding the law of karma and in seeing God omnipresent. We know that in successfully facing the difficulties that come to us in life we are resolving karma and moving forward on the spiritual path.
People are the way they are because of their experiences in this and past lives. Also, many people have no concept that they can change their nature by self-effort, can improve their behavior if they want to, raise their state of awareness through self-effort.
Rather, they remain as the person they are because of the belief that that is all that is possible. Therefore, the wise approach is for everyone to simply accept as they are.
Life improves with cases of circumstances where we simply need to accept. We are responsible for taking care of an elderly parent and younger family members. No matter how much care and love we give, the elderly, parents may remain unhappy and complains constantly. We feel that the family members should change, show more thankfulness, be pleased. The solution is accepting the elderly parent as he or she is.
How is it possible to overlook the challenging situations? It is possible by forgiving the elderly parents or younger family members or as the case may be based on a profound understanding of the law of karma. The family member or individuals are simply the instrument for bringing this karma back to you. If it was not that particular person, it would be another person. In other words, from the deepest perspective, everything that happens to you is caused by you. It is a karma you set in motion in the past. The person is simply the instrument for that karma to return to you, not the cause of it. You can only blame yourself for everything negative that happens to you. Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.
Forbearance is a great virtue and is of paramount importance in day to day lie to people of all walks of life in every sphere of work, activity, for young and old.
This world is the world of duality. In everything there are opposites. The world itself exists on polar opposites-pleasure-pain, loss-gain, night-day-hot-cold etc. Everything in this world of relativity is conditioned. That is why our mind is tossed between optimism and pessimism. In a day several times the whole humanity suffers the duality of pleasure and pain. They are two sides of the same coin. They follow one another like day and night, birth, and death etc.
Accept everything about yourself — I mean everything, you are you and that is the beginning and the end — no apologies, no regrets. Life itself is a tightrope walking. One has to maintain his balance, left and right. So as to balance in life, one needs to cultivate the habit of forbearance to a great extent. Nothing is permanent-happiness-unhappiness and so on. The real self is only permanent, fix your mind in inner awareness to attain peace, bliss which is beyond duality.
“These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.”